Thanks Andrew.....I've now got some assistance, prompted by my sister talking to her Minister (CofS in Aldershot!) for some guidance about the situation (she said she was angry that her Church is everything that she sees that a church SHOULD be and that I can't go to mine because of my Minister's offensive behaviour!)...he has suggested a few options, one of which being that he has said HE would be willing to contact my Minister....considering that but not sure if it would inflame the situation further (although right now I don't have THAT much to lose!)

Yet again on here, the support/assistance is amazing! Proving that a "community" doesn't need to be immediate in vicinity!
Thanks all!!!!

Bless you EliB...

i am not sure what you want to achieve here....  please don't think i am looking at this in any other way but perspective.....

let me start with ... i personally have no objection to your sister's minister putting theri ore in ... i think the situation is a bit of a mess...

i think i see the current situation in two or three ways or even more ways....   1) is your needs as a human and in that i DO include your Spirituality

2) the views / response of your immediate pastor

3) the relationship of you and your church community

4) the wider political aspects of how someone in your (and many other situations) should be treated by 'the organisation'

in the first instance

i can see that it might be seen as a bit of a crusade... where actually you are seeking and needing support.... Grace, respect, love, healing, and for that to be taken seriously.... all of that i'm with you on.....  sometimes we just have to accept that the place we expect to find it in the first place just well has a door that says 'preoccupied' .... whereas Jesus' door  doesn't it's open and the places it leads us towards is all of what you need ....  what happens next is well....  what happens next...

GOD BLESS!

Peace and Love,