Thanks Andrew.....I've now got some assistance, prompted by my sister talking to her Minister (CofS in Aldershot!) for some guidance about the situation (she said she was angry that her Church is everything that she sees that a church SHOULD be and that I can't go to mine because of my Minister's offensive behaviour!)...he has suggested a few options, one of which being that he has said HE would be willing to contact my Minister....considering that but not sure if it would inflame the situation further (although right now I don't have THAT much to lose!)

Yet again on here, the support/assistance is amazing! Proving that a "community" doesn't need to be immediate in vicinity!
Thanks all!!!!