Message #2411

[EliB]

However, isn't it part of human nature to want to take the punishment for others you care for?

I definitely think it's part of human nature to want to 'protect' those we care about...but "take the punishment for"?? Not so sure!! If we take the punishment for someone we care for, they're learning nothing, other than that actions DON'T have consequences...!
I think a punishment for ANY crime (however minor on the grand scale - although those seen as "minor" crimes can also have "major" consequences, ie speeding etc!) should be carried by the person responsible. Full stop!
I agree with Tangnefedd, I really don't see me carrying the legal can for someone I cared about! Yes, I'd try and help them deal with the punishment, but I wouldn't falsely admit!
(my friend's brother got a ban for drink driving - I told him to his face how disgusted I was with him for doing what he did and how disappointed I was....! He agreed he deserved what I'd said and that what he'd done was stupid in the extreme and he was banned and fined! Have I given him lifts to here there and everywhere? Yes! Because I care about him, but the punishment is HIS!!!!)