Message #1878

[EliB]

For me, counselling by professionals has been essential! There is no way that I could have spoken in the way that I have (albeit not right away - it takes time to build up trust to be able to speak freely!!) to family or friends - absolutely no way!!! And that's not a criticism of my family or friends - but sometimes people can be too close and a more objective view point is needed.....that and there's the knowledge that that person's soul function for you is to listen and guide - and you can walk away.....family and friends are always going to "know"!!
I DID have an aunt say to me once that I shouldn't be "talking about such things" to a stranger....that "these things" should be "kept in the family"....I told her she sounded like something from the Godfather!!! This is the same aunt, incidently, who a good while ago, told me that **** was "just sex when you don't want it"!!!! Emmmm....no it isn't!!!!